A Conversation with John Edward
by Sandra Yeyati
Psychic medium John Edward will be appearing at the Doubletree by Hilton Austin at 7 p.m., February 5. A seven-time New York Times bestselling author, Edward will begin the evening with an interactive question-and-answer session. He will then connect with the Other Side and give messages to the audience from family and friends that have crossed over.
As a psychic medium, author and lecturer, and on his internationally syndicated talk shows, Crossing Over with John Edward and John Edward Cross Country, Edward has helped thousands with his ability to predict future events and to connect people with loved ones that have passed on. Deeply compelling, often startling and occasionally humorous, Edward’s down-to-earth approach has earned him a vast and loyal following.
How do the messages present themselves? Do you hear things or do thoughts just appear in your mind?
It’s just like daydreaming. You pay attention to what you’re thinking, feeling and hearing. When you watch TV and movies with supernatural stuff, it glorifies and glamorizes it. Actually, it’s a very subtle energy. If you’re reading a book to yourself and you hear the words on the page in your mind, that’s your thought voice. That’s kind of how the impressions come across. It’s a thought. You have to pay attention to what it is that you’re thinking, to what you’re feeling and what you’re seeing in your mind’s eye. It’s not a vision.
Do you edit messages before you say them to people if, for example, a message is crass or hurtful?
I have a rule that whatever I see, hear or feel I say, but I always ask for permission. So if somebody is in the room at an event, they want to be in the room, I feel like I already have permission to work with them. However, if I know that I’m going to go into some area of their life that’s going to be a little bit private, I’ll ask them in front of everybody, “Do I have permission to go a little bit deeper?” And if they say yes, then I’ll go into it, but I’ll still try to be delicate.
I know that this is interpretational. I am not omniscient and I can be wrong. I will be wrong. I’m wrong a lot. But I feel that the information that’s coming through is 100 percent accurate. It’s how it gets filtered through me that takes it in the wrong direction. So I’ll say to people, look I could be completely off but here’s what I’m seeing, here’s what I’m hearing, here’s what I’m feeling. Here’s what it means to me. Here’s what I think it means. At which point they either get it or they don’t get it.
If something negative comes through, or it could be painful, I still deliver the information because I feel there’s a reason why that person wants to come through with that. It’s going to help them on their journey and help them in some capacity so I don’t want to get in the way of it. I want to honor it as best I can, while knowing I could be wrong, so there is a very fine line, and this is where the responsibility and the ethics come in when delivering information because my role is to leave people better than I find them. I don’t want to mess them up in any way.
Is there a way that people can react or respond that is more helpful for you, as opposed to a skeptic who might cross his arms and say, “I don’t know, why don’t you tell me.”
I would prefer to read a skeptic than I would to read a believer. You need somebody to be skeptical, and there’s a difference between skepticism and cynicism. The skeptic is going to say, “I don’t know, why don’t you tell me.” That person is being sarcastic, and it might be their fear of what’s going to come through, but they’re still open to allowing it to happen. The cynical person usually will go on the attack. They usually will try to define a medium’s motivations and assassinate their character.
I think it’s imperative for people to be skeptical during a reading. They’ll get a better session because they’ll get more information, they’ll get more details out of it. I would rather read the skeptical person, and I think the place for somebody to be when they go for a session is to be thinking.
The believer is going to want everything to be from who they want it to be, and they’re going to be so excited to hear something. I think they miss out, and I wind up being the skeptic during the reading because I have to stop them and go, “Wait a minute. Do you hear what I’m saying? Are you understanding this?” A lot of times people just want what I call the fluff. They just want to know that they’re OK and that they’re with them. I don’t like those readings. I like the readings where the person is really listening and thinking, and I can leave them better than I actually found them.
Can their responses mislead or cloud your ability?
No I don’t really pay attention to my clients. I don’t really let them talk. They can validate what’s coming through, but if they try to help me I stop them because I don’t want them going down the wrong path. Information needs to be the information.
Is there a commonality on the types of messages that people on the other side are sending?
There are themes. We’re with you. We’re still participants in your life. We are connected to you. We watch over you. There’s the theme of helping raise their awareness so that they can move through some of the blockages that are coming through.
In what way do you help people?
I think it helps people to know that the people that we love who crossed over are still a part of our lives. A lot of people use the word closure, but I don’t like the word closure. To me to say you’re bringing closure to something, puts a period at the end of that relationship, and I think we want to put a dash, we want to put a semicolon. You want them to know that we can move forward in our physical life, but we’re moving forward with them being a part of it.
Have you been a mentor or instructor for other mediums?
I have been for a couple of people but I’ve shied away from that. I wrote a book about psychic development, and I’m recording a DVD series about intuition, but all of that is not to train people to be psychic. It’s training people how to be psychic to live a more empowered lifestyle.
I’ve got two kids, an 11-year-old and a 7-year-old, I’m not teaching them how to do readings. I’m teaching them how to live in this world of energy to have an edge. You want to be able to look at life in an empowered way. You want to be able to see people and their intent and the choices that you make and understand why you’re making them. You want to use numerology and astrology like weather patterns, so you know how to dress for the lessons that you’re learning. I feel like it’s the next phase of what I’m supposed to get people to do. To get people to evolve and to understand what’s available to them and I’m kind of past people wanting to develop to do readings. I want them to develop for their own family.
How can western cultures better deal with death?
By honoring it. So many people are afraid to talk about it. When somebody loses, let’s say, a child, the people that are in that person’s circle get shunned, and it’s one of the most painful things for somebody who’s suffering a loss to not have someone celebrate that loss with them, to honor that child, to say that person’s name.
If someone is diagnosed with a terminal form of cancer, it’s not unforeseen. People know that person is going to pass, but they don’t talk about it. They don’t sit there and say, let’s talk to dad about his cancer. Let’s talk about his timeline. Let’s talk about our feelings about what’s going to happen. Everybody ignores it. They all wait for the big miracle. They try to go find God. They try to find the breakthrough medication with that miracle cure and in some cases that happens but it’s a very small percentage. For the most part, that person is going to pass. And the family is going to be left without that person being here. So I think honoring it and communicating about it and talking about it and expressing your feelings and talking about your fears, all of that would be extremely helpful. There’s nothing wrong with grief. And if people would honor that, it would help them.
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Sandra Yeyati is the editor of Natural Awakenings Austin